Words written by their hand: an irreplaceable legacy
A hastily scribbled birthday card, a note left on the kitchen table, a letter carefully folded in a yellowed envelope… These notes bear the unmistakable imprint of their handwriting and thoughts. Rereading these words can bring tears to your eyes, but also a deep sense of connection.
In the whirlwind of grief, we may be tempted to put everything aside, throw it all away. But these cards are often the most intimate testaments to how they loved us, supported us, or simply thought of us. Put them in a box of memories, even if you’re not ready to read them right away.
Their Voice: A Memory That Warms the Heart
Thanks to cell phones, we can now store voice recordings just like we store photos. A simple “Call me back when you can” or “Sending you a big kiss” can, over time, become a memory of great emotional value.
These recordings contain much more than just the message: their intonation, their laughter, their breathing… so many details that bring their presence to life. So before you reflexively delete a voicemail, save it somewhere, even if you rarely listen to it.
Everyday objects that have had their mark
A chipped mug from which they still drank their morning coffee, a scarf that still smelled, an old watch that no longer worked but which they wore every day… These objects have the power to instantly evoke specific memories.
Of course, you can’t keep everything. But choosing a few items that held true meaning for them—and for you—allows you to maintain a tangible connection. And later, these items can become family heirlooms, filled with stories to be passed down.
Photos, even those with unknown faces
In the heat of the moment, we might want to get rid of boxes of old photos, especially if we don’t recognize all the people in them. However, these photos often provide a window into generations.
Instead of throwing them away, set them aside and organize an afternoon of reminiscing with older family members. They’ll recognize faces, share anecdotes, and share a part of your family history you may not have known.
Why it’s important to choose carefully
After a funeral, the desire to “make space” can be a way to close a chapter or soothe the grief. However, some memories, even the smallest ones, can become turning points in moments of nostalgia.
Don’t force yourself to review everything immediately. Take your time and keep what you consider valuable close at hand, even if it seems insignificant today.
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